The impact of financial changes on relationships, drawing parallels to the 2008 economic downturn. It discusses how shifts in financial stability can strain relationships, especially when material wealth and status are prioritized. The importance of proactively strengthening relationships is emphasized, with suggestions like marriage counseling, spending quality time together, and focusing on family to prevent small cracks from becoming significant issues during challenging times.

The discussion also highlights the critical connection between mental and physical health, noting how unresolved psychological issues can manifest as physical problems and negatively affect relationships. Viewers are encouraged to engage in mental strengthening practices, such as reading self-help books and participating in therapy, to build resilience and prepare for the financial challenges ahead. Strengthening both mental health and emotional bonds now can help couples better navigate future financial pressures.

Highlights of the Podcast

00:04 - Financial Shifts and Relationship Strain
01:20 - Marital Issues and Hierarchical Structures
03:02 - Importance of Preemptive Relationship Strengthening
04:54 - Physical Health and Relationship Dynamics
06:48 - Mental Health's Role in Physical Well-being
09:37 - Preparation for Financial Challenges
10:50 - Anticipating Future Relationship Struggles

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:00:04] I'm going to try really hard to keep this in a position where I'm not talking over people and using terms that are said. I've been told many times I did not. However, there's some things in here. We'll just do what we have. One of the things I'm sort of seeing now, we saw it in oh eight. We're seeing it again. We're about to see a lot more over the next 18 months or so. Is, what happens when they become uncomfortable with the current hierarchical structure? When any of this men do this? It's not a sex thing. It's just we react a little bit differently. So we didn't know it when we started to see financial change. We saw a lot of relationships die. We saw a lot of new relationships created, because of that hierarchal function. What we're going to start seeing soon is the same thing. People who are making X $9, who are not making more, because of the inflation we've had, whatnot, it's going to decrease the quality of life, the standard of living. Of a lot of people. And so, I mean, if you make $300,000 three years ago and three years from today, you're still making 300,000, that $300,000 is vastly different in buying power.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:01:20] So the quality of life it will afford is also going to be very, very different. So what we are seeing is as. Those things start to shift. If we are to maintain a hierarchal structure where financial stability or financial, excellence is a high priority in that person's whole structure. The value of the person that they are with will diminish. So basically, the more you like material things, money and the things you buy and the status of that type of thing, as the value of the person that you're with in that vertical decreases, the attractiveness of that person to you also decreases. This is why a lot of times marriages are having problems. This is where marriages are far apart. This because either the the view of the hierarchal need. Either didn't change, the circumstances changed, or people get bored and they're hierarchal. They start viewing different. Different ways with different businesses in the different verticals of the hierarchy. So this is one of the things that, you know, I'm starting to see now, and I think that we're going to see giant amounts more in the next place 18 months. So. I would recommend that, you know, if you were married, if you're in a relationship, that you start looking at your relationship and looking at your marriage, looking at the things that are going on around you, ensure that, you know, whether that's marriage counseling, whether that's, you know, read some books together, that's whether that's, you know, cut some stuff out and do more things together, focus on the family, whatever it is.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:03:02] I would highly recommend that you guys start looking at shoring up relationships because as times change for you can say how you want to. As things get tough, small cracks in relationships become larger gaps and things start to break. So if we strengthen them now, before the storm hits us, the damage is substantially reduced. So. And it's funny because people will come in and they'll, you know, they'll want to get in shape, they want to get healthier, they'll want to get whatever. And sometimes they don't know that it's a, it's in preparation for a possible horrible change. So, I think I think it's a well enough known thing that when, if your girlfriend, everything's cool and your girlfriend starts working out and starts getting back in shape and starts taking better care of her physical appearance, that sort of thing. You should probably do the same thing because she's on. She's uncomfortable with the status quo, and so she's making herself, more attractive, and raising her position on the societal hierarchal structure. It's probably not necessarily for the person she's in the relationship with. So it's that type of idea. And then two the people come here or they go to people like me to get in shape. Typically what it is, is the women coming in ahead of time. Get in shape, get ready, and then they announce their displeasure with the relationship, which is when the guys can come in because it's usually like, I'm getting a divorce. I just got divorced. And I have to be ready for the guy. And that's fine.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:04:54] But I also know if you get in shape ahead of time, if you start working on the relationship ahead of time, you can maintain it. And it will grow with you and get better all the way around. So. We're going to move the pockets on this side a little bit more. But that's one of the things I'm starting to see now, which, like the way it is, if things in the world are looking like they're going to get tumultuous, I would start to shut down the things that make life better. Because if. If all of a sudden financially, things are getting tighter and more difficult. The last thing you want to do is add on. Your relationship and your marriage and that sort of thing getting more tumultuous as well. And just as a as a sidebar on that, whether it's illness, whether it's financial issues, whether it's whatever it is, any hardship that hits a relationship is going to find the cracks. It's like water. Water will always find a way to seep through cracks. And if the water starts moving through cracks just a little bit, over time, it starts to getting worse and worse and worse, and the dam falls apart. So, the the idea that if you're not working to strengthen your relationship, you're letting time destroy it, you're letting the world destroy it is a 100% thing. So which is one of the big reasons that we started adding so much more. Mental work, mental psych. Where to? What we're doing here? The. I said this for a while. I'm getting a little more vocal on it. You cannot be healthy. With you cannot be physically. Hollywood. Unhealthy mind. So if you have, you know, past traumas, you've got past issues. If you have current issues, if you're not dealing with properly, those will come back to haunt you in a variety of ways.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:06:48] It will obviously destroy your relationships. But it also damage your health. You know, it's everybody talks about how important mental health is. Like, I don't think you're going to talk to any health care provider anywhere who has not mental health issues in everything. Like everybody's like mental health is really important. Everybody says nobody's doing does nothing about it. That's the the big thing that we've been working on stress wise for a long time is, you know, getting your mind into this to deal with your stress as your stress is the vast majority of your stress. The damage is the psychological stress. So if you're not doing anything to deal with that, the biochemical is always going to be damaging, throughout. So, you know, that's why we talk about doing gratitude is and I talk about it a lot. But, you know, we've had people who I much longer we all we did we didn't do a whole lot of mental stuff because we're working into it. But the big thing that he noticed is the gratitude. And we did, he did, you know, the same thing to gratitude. The morning to gratitude at night. And after, like a month, six weeks, I was talking to him, and he was like, he is. You know, it's weird. He has every single, he's like, I have, every six, eight months after he gets in new car, he'd be like, I start looking for my new car. And he was like, and I've been spending. Was like, he was. He told me he's always designing the new house. See where I'm at. And he was telling me that after he's been through the crisis for a while, he was like, I realize that this has been eight, nine months ago. I started, like, I'm not looking for a new car. It's not looking, and I'm not really designing new houses.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:08:26] And I was like, why do you think this is like, I don't know if it's going to just continue with what I have. And that's the thing, you know, depending on how we decide to focus our mind and what we want to do with her mind, it dictates everything else, right? It's always funny because, you know, you can foresee the effect, and the placebo effect is where someone has an illness or an issue or whatever with their health, and you give them a fake pill, like a sugar pill or whatever. You mistake pill, and you go, here, try this, see if it helps. And it's like, I think the research shows between 26 and 32% of time, it helps tremendously. It's helpful. Signal fact. The reason that works is because their mind decided that they were going to get better. And so they did. And that's a lot of times with this. There's also things are called psychosomatic, where you have an issue in your body because you've decided that you have an issue. Right. There's psychosomatic pregnancies. Google some of this stuff, like Google psychosomatic function, because it's how your brain perceives an issue. You're physically you physically feel it. So your mind is extremely important to everything that you're doing. And I think you will pay way too much lip service to it. Not enough actual function to it.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:09:37] So that's why the things we do when we put people on a path is we're like, hey, look, here's all the things that we've got to do to make sure that, you know, your mind's in the right spot. You know, and that's why we brought in the NLP. That's why, you know, try to psych stuff to our, you know, talk therapy, psychotherapy, whatever it is, psychologically, the trigger to do to make your mind stronger and more resilient, do you need to start leaning into. And when you foresee an issue coming, that's going to be a big storm and the inflation thing's not coming down. They can tell you whatever they want to tell you. We're going to have inflation to actual years. So that's the I think we're all going to do. Well. So if you know there's a storm coming, I would advise you to start showering things up, to start making sure that you're if there's. If there's, you know. Maybe relationship marriage counseling that's available for church or something else. Or if you already have some issues that you know about or like, oh, that's a stress. I've got this, I've got that. Maybe getting started talking to me now would be beneficial. Because it's not necessarily raining real hard right now, which you can see.

Dr. Matt Chalmers [00:10:50] You can see the storm in the distance. I just wanted to throw that out, as a as something that I'm seeing coming. And I don't think that if you really think about it, I don't think you two are going to argue, you know, that financial issues are one of the things that destroys relationships more than that. So, regardless, if you're going to be able to make more money or have more money or save more money, if you strengthen, if you give other reasons for the relationship, be strong. You give other reasons for you to be psychologically immensely strong. You're going to help weather the storm more so whatever it is you're going to do for your mental health. Reading mental health books. Reading self-help books. Reading Tony Robbins, reading, you know, like servings of stew and stuff like that. I always tell people it's a great book to start with. You know, or the example. That's one thing. But start figuring out how you can make yourself mentally more mentally strong, more, mentally secure and strengthen your relationship. If you don't start thinking about that stuff when the storm comes, it's going to hit you harder than you want it to. So, just as a quick FYI, if you guys have any other questions, dropping the comments or here's other questions at Thomas Lewis. Com and, we got. So this your time?

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