I have talked a lot about the notion that the word “love” is a verb. I'll give you an example from my own life… One of the small things I do everyday for my wife is make her a hot beverage in the morning. It is a small thing that takes five minutes, but I like knowing that when she gets up, it is ready for her and she knows I took the time to do it.
To be fair, it's a little more than a tea bag in water. It has a packet of coffee, three capsules of collagen, three level scoops of monk fruit powder and two level scoops of her special tea powder. Then I make sure there is water in the kettle for her, and I start working.
She doesn't always comment on it, but she doesn't have to. I do it for her to show that I care, not because I need the acknowledgment. One of the small things she does for me is is change the shower back to the way I like it after she takes her showers. We have two shower heads; she likes the normal and I like the rain head.
These are not the things that make for the world’s greatest love story, however the little things are important and often go unnoticed. These are also the things we can focus on when we think about how much someone cares. I make her tea and she changes the shower, even when we are grumpy with each other.
What things does someone do for you that means a lot? What things might others add to their day that would help show their partner they care?
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Dr. Matt Chalmers